If you want to please your husband, Jill Duggar suggests that you don’t please yourself. According to Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar’s second oldest daughter, fulfilling your sexual desires alone is a no-no.

Mrs. Derick Dillard also thinks wives should shower more and be available to fulfill the sexual desires of their husbands. She suggests making love at least three to four times a week. “And when you may not be able to actually have intercourse for a period of time or for health issues, find other ways to have fun and intimate,” she notes.

In addition to the carnal pleasures, Jill says you should pray for your husband, look nice for him, be respectful, be a good listener, and do all you can to “serve him and meet his needs.” Uh…okay…